Friday, February 27, 2009

Act like a lady, think like a man

So I just finished watching Oprah...and Steve Harvey was on the show discussing his new book: "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man"...and it sounds like a hilarious and truthful book!! So of course I thought I would google it and find a little bit more about it: here is an article that was posted online at by Zosia Bielski (From Thursday's Globe and Mail February 19):
Steve Harvey has some advice for women: Scrap the flats for heels; ditch the T-shirt for lingerie in bed; make the kitchen your "friend;" leave the heavy lifting to a man, and never, ever utter the words "We need to talk."
These and many other timeless suggestions can be found in the comedian's new, bestselling relationship-advice book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, published by Harper Collins.
The onetime insurance salesman says men are simple - so simple he could have written the book in "35 pages." Men in love, he says, do just three things: They profess that love, they provide and they protect. Anything beyond that and "you're in the bonus round."
Mr. Harvey spoke with The Globe and Mail about what else women don't get about men.
You write that the "need to feel needed is way bigger to [men] than we've let on." You also write that a woman's financial and educational gains should "never be bigger than the relationship with the man." Do you think women's gains are wrecking relationships?
They do if you present the aura that you don't need a man. It's great that women are upwardly mobile now. I think that a woman would love to have a shoulder to lean on, love to have a strong male figure around, but you've got to allow for that to happen in your life. If you're going to portray that you don't need a man, that's not really going to attract too many men.
You've talked about women underestimating how much looks matter to men, that if she isn't primping, she might be in for a rough ride. Can you expand on that?
We just like shiny stuff. We are that simple. Women get older, they have kids, they get the van, they get the route to the school, they get the little mom slacks that she drops the kids off in, the sneakers, she stops wearing the makeup. If that's not what won over the guy in the beginning, please know, he's still attracted to those [external] things. If you don't want your man to ever stop feeling certain things for you, you gotta always maintain. And that goes for men too.
Can you see how this stuff might make women resent you?
The fact that you do not like what I'm saying does not stop it from being the truth about men.
You say men expect three things in return for their three Ps: support, loyalty and the "cookie." "The way we men connect is by having sex. Period," you write. You say that if a woman withholds sex for one month, she risks losing a partner.
Here's the deal: If you're pregnant with our child, we understand, we're not barbaric - we got that there's a waiting period. Now, if you're just holding out, what are you saying to this guy? A guy has to have certain things and the woman knows it.
At the same time, you suggest women should abstain from having sex with a new partner for 90 days. Do you think that's realistic in this day and age?
I think it's absolutely realistic. That's the problem: Women have given up their standards and their requirements because of us. We have made you think that if you don't put out in a certain amount of time, you're going to drive us off. The real deal of it is, there's nothing you can do to beat a guy off that really wants you. If your wall is a foot and a half high, you're going to have a lot of guys playing in your yard, digging up your grass, messing up your flower bed. If you've got your bar set high, that's what we're going to rise to.
That brings me to the "keeper," a woman who commands respect, and the "sport fish," a girl with no rules who keeps things "day to day." Popular culture seems to favour the second kind: the low-maintenance woman, the non-nag. You preach the opposite.
It's you, the woman, who has the power to determine whether you're a keeper or a throwback. It's the way you act, it's your standards, it's what you're willing to accept, what you will put up with. A woman has a right to know when she's going to get married, if you're going to marry her. A woman should not be at a guy's beck and call. That's ridiculous.
I find it hard to believe that a woman who tells a man upfront she is looking for marriage and children is a keeper. Most men would run.
That will get the right guy for you.
You write: "Whatever the case, we men are no longer connecting with that special part of you that makes you a woman." What do you mean by that?
When a man does not understand your value, we disconnect from you. That's why I implore women, keep your standards and your requirements high. My wife never lets her standards down. When we're heading to the car, she stands by her door because she knows, and she expects and she requires, that it's my job to open her door for her.
And you enjoy that.
I love it. Please. I love her showing that I am a man, that I am her man, that she made the right choice. The average man enjoys being a man if given the opportunity. But look, if you're going to be a "chirp" girl, where I hit the button and the car door opens and you pop in, then that's how I'm going to treat you. A man relishes and takes pleasure in doing those things because it makes him feel like a man. If a woman just grabs the door or pulls her own chair out, I'm telling you, you're killing it.

Thursday, February 26, 2009


ok so this year I am watching shows I wouldn't usually watch - however when you don't have homework or work to keep you somewhat busy I find myself after a long run to be sitting in front of the tube watching shows such as the Bachelor (Melissa will win - though I was a fan of Gillian), Grays, Private Practice, The City, and my parents all time fav - American Idol. When watching last night I was blown away by Allison Iraheta and thought I would share! Turn up your volume!

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

support the community

Last night as I was humming and hawing over if I should have sushi or thai for dinner last night, I realized just how important supporting my local shops are to me! Though I am somewhat of a guest of Oakville, I know a lot of my friends are residents of Mississauga / Oakville / Burlington so I thought I would share some places that need to be ventured to in order to keep our town prosperous (and also so they remain in business so that I don't have to visit elsewhere ha!). So here is a "lonelyplanet" entry par moi (hots spots of Oakville that I can be found in - addresses can be google'd):
Sushi: Ami Sushi
Fine dining sushi: Oki Sushi or Mye Japanese Restaurant
Thai: Thai Chef (order veggie phad thai with broccoli)
Best Food Market: Jubilee
Sandwiches, Pizza, Salads: Stoney's
Cards and Gifts: Write Impressions
Cards and Flowers: Wholefoods
Supplements and Organic Skin Care: Nutrition House (Oakville place) and Popeye's (Dorval)
Yoga: My Kula
Yoga attire: Lulu of course - but in Oakville!
Outdoor Attire: Running Company, Running Room, and M.E.C (Burlington)
Hair Salon: Monzer (Laura is who I go to)
Nail Salon: Bebe (not my fav...but a good price)
Wool: The Wool Bin (Kerr)
Favourite Plaza: Wholefoods, Shoppers, and Starbucks plaza on Cornwall
Please note: when I lived in LP I always thought people who lived in Oakville lived in a bubble - and often I would comment on this - however slowly but surely I realized this bubble is an ok place to be in. All we need is a holts at Oakville place. ha! (maybe once I get a job!)
ps. got the nicest card in the mail today from Bernice - my own personalized starbucks card! best gift ever! thank you!

Monday, February 23, 2009

and the oscar goes to...

81 years? incredible...I love the fact that 'the' award show brought some history to the stage! Though it seemed a little lengthy and I was taking the odd "i'll just close my eyes for a wee bit" breaks...I thought there were some special moments that need to be recognized - and some that could have been passed. First off I loved loved LOVED the fact that the 4 highly distinguished awards were presented from 5 previous Oscar winners. It was very powerful and if I won an award I would be over the moon to be presented from actors that had inspired me over the years.(Also so appropriate that a standing ovation were greeting the esteemed actors as they walked on the stage) Secondly, I loved everything the stage had to offer. I totally thought the Oscar creators added more creativity to the stage, instead of adding just your straight up video clips. Finally, I thought Hugh Jackman did a fab job. Talk about a well rounded guy! And also thought Slumdog Millionaire deserved the night! Now things that were lacking and could have been changed! The red carpet: it seemed to lack the A listers! Where was Leo? Also what's an award show without Jack Nicholson? Award Winners: I'm sorry but Kate Winslet does a great job at all movies she is in, but to me she hasn't put in enough time...Best Actress should have gone to Meryl Streep. Furthermore, the middle hour of the show could have been wrapped up in 10 minutes...seemed way to lengthy for me! All in all, thought it was a 8/10 show. ps. best speeches: Penelope Cruz and Sean Penn
Now in terms of style: Best dressed: Penelope Cruz - her dress was 60 years old, and just like the Oscars it proved to be timeless. Best hair: Jennifer Aniston. Best couple: Robert Downey and his wife - can't pinpoint why. Best jewels: Angelina Jolie. Best pink: Natalie Portman. Best dressed in her career: Alicia Keys. Best group: Slumdog Millionaire kids. Worst dressed: Kate Winslet and Miley Cyrus.
ps. for the love...would it not get warmer outside already!

Thursday, February 19, 2009


For the past 10 days I have had a cute little shadow- Bernice Rice-Swing, and today I have to give her back to her mom. sniff sniff. I have always thought I wanted a dog, but these past few days have really made me want one even more, especially one so well trained and on her best behaviour at all times (well minus a few minor details..oops). Though some mornings my bed was calling my name and I was too comfy to suit up and go for a walk, it was on those morning walks (and lunch and dinner walks) that I appreciated my little shadows company and totally embraced the first hour of the day while most were hitting the snooze button. It's also nice to socialize with other dog owners hitting the streets. Bernice is definitely a fan fav! This weekend she was also a little warrior and travelled up north to celebrate a Bryce family weekend...and it seemed she was in her element as we were racing up and down the icy lake! I will definitely miss my little friend! (I have also never said cute so many times...other than of course in Mitchell's presence) Heather if you ever need another sitter, I am your girl :) xo

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Wine Review

One of the perks of having parents who are wine connoisseurs is the opportunity to taste all sorts of different wines. We have a few standards at the house that I have quite enjoyed over the years, but recently with my parents home from Florida for the week, my dad has been drinking and sharing a very nice Pinot Noir by Robert Mondavi. So thought I would's really good - and why not try it out on Valentine's? Though in my serving days I had to take wine tasting courses, I still can't taste what you are suppose to taste or smell; so for those wine enthusiasts who need to know a little more about the wine here goes: It is rare to find a pinot noir at about this price that is even drinkable. This widely distributed wine from Mondavi is actually enjoyable. It's a medium-bodied, fruity red that is entirely free of the quirky flavors that tend to crop up in budget pinot noirs. It is reminiscent of a well-made regional Bourgogne from a top-notch producer. This easy-drinking wine with bright black-cherry flavors would be a versatile companion to a wide variety of foods - from red meat to fish - and an excellent addition to restaurant wine lists (and wine for your house). Price point: $20

ps. off to the cottage this weekend to spend my valentine's with the people i love :) Hope everyone has a happy Valentine's and Family Day weekend! xo
pps. Cinnamon hearts are no where to be found...I wait all year for them to make their way on shelves across the city, and to date all I have had are some nibbles of them at Heather's! the hunt continues!

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Style of the week

Well this week I have a wee bit of time on my jobs are not as steady this week as it was in my between time I have been checking out some sites...and have been seeing some of my style icons hitting the red carpets. My fav, Sienna Miller, showed off her quirky style in a gold-belted feathery Matthew Williamson frock with a fur-topped Louis Vuitton tuxedo blazer for the Elle Style Awards, where she picked up the style icon honor (right on!). Gwyneth Paltrow, also a fan fav of mine, went to the 14th Annual Saks Fifth Avenue Unforgettable Evening event for cancer research. Though she received mixed reviews about her attire, I thought it looked elegant on her, and she topped it off with killer shoes. Oh to have an unlimited day?!

Friday, February 6, 2009

Something From Nothing

Alright now that the guest writer has recieved the record amount of comments, it's now my turn to start writing again. So this past week I have supplied 4 days and it was a great experience! I love being in a class room setting, it's where I feel most comfortable (job wise). At the school I am currently supplying at, the teacher in her outline of the day had asked that the supply teacher (moi) read a story to the grade 2's while they are having lunch (sneaky way to keep them behaved). Seeing as I carry short stories on me at all times I decided to read Angela's Airplane the first day, next was Jillian Jiggs, and the third day the kids had some books all picked out for me and I covered 3 in one sitting! I am getting quite good at my reading voice (if I don't say so myself!) Ha! Last night as I was looking through all my stories to prepare for today, I came a across a story called "Something From Nothing" written by Phoebe Gilman. A teacher from one of my placement had said it was her absolute today I decided to read it to the class...all were in tuned and thought it was a great and memorable book! Such a great message also! This book can also be incorporated into the curriculum by creating different activities that goes with the story line. I have a few lessons saved if you need them! If you're not a teacher, an amazing book to give, read or share! (The pictures are superb and tell their own story too!)
Background: Joseph's Grandpa can fix anything. He can turn a worn out blanket into a wonderful jacket, a vest into a Sabbath tie, a ragged handkerchief into a brand-new button, but when the button is lost, what's to be done? Even Grandpa can't make something from nothing.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

St. Theresa's Prayer

"May today there be peace within. May you trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be. May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith in yourself and others. May you use the gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has been given to you. May you be content with yourself just the way you are. Let this knowledge settle into your bones, and allow your soul the freedom to sing, dance, praise and love. It is there for each and every one of us."